My wife and I have been using this site for a while now and we are struggling to find a donor that doesnt want NI. I mean I guess the whole purpose of seeking a donor for most people in a couple (gay or straight) is to do artificial insemination? I find it quite challenging when men then start asking for NI even when you stipulate what you want.
It starts to feel a little bit like the men asking that arent donating because actually they genuienly want to help but more so because they want to have sex. I know a lot of women who desperately want a child will probaby go ahead with NI because it seems like its the only option. In that way it seems a little coercive as an advantage is definitely being taken over the woman in need.
Im not saying all men on here by the way because there are a few willing to help by any means. It seems a bit sordid when some men talk about being happily married but want to donate BUT only through NI.
I see that admin do a great job by providing lists of people to look out for and ofcourse not everything can be policed over the internet with probably a thousand miles between each member. I guess I would like to see a section for AI donors only as to eliminate that awkward part of tge conversation where you ask if "you are okay with AI?"as if naturally the assumption is that recipient and donor would be having full blown sex even if the recipient is married. Especially when the donor is often reluctant or unwilling to share the results of or go for a sexual health screening (be advised there are a lot of frauds out there).
Anyway, I just wanted to know if anyone else felt a little overwhelmed with requests for NI after clearly stating AI only?
Happy new year
Hey, We are a lesbian couple that have been married for nearly 2 years (Feb 2017). We have a 6 year old and have been planning to expand our family for a while now.