PARENTING STARTS BEFORE CONCEPTION
Plan early ie months beforehand
Look at your lifestyle (is it conducive to good fertility eg smoking, drinking, night shifts)
Are you really in a committed relationship
Be aware the dynamics of the relationship you have with your partner might change once pregnancy happens/baby comes along
Go with your instinct on donors.
Do not try to get pregnant to hold a rocky, “run it’s course” or “boring” relationship together
Learn about and monitor ovulation and timing.
Learn about and recognise your body signs for ovulation.
Read up and practice using either a syringe or softcup or both BEFORE YOUR 1ST DONATION.
Do give donors a reasonable amount of info on your FB about page, postings, website
Do not approach donors who you can not travel to or can travel to you, want your ethnicity, age group etc
Do not repeatedly post on websites or groups (better to remove/delete old posts)

SAFETY AND COURTESY
Do not do the dirty on sperm donors….EVER.
Have standards ie don’t be desperate
Be as honest as you can be.
Go with your instinct on donors (any alarm bells ringing).
Do have other people present at donation meeting if it makes you feel safer
DO not leave valuables in the room where the donation is to take place.
Do realise contracts are meaningless and offer neither party any legal protection
Do not repeatedly post on websites or groups (better to remove/delete old posts)

IMAGES AND DESCRIPTION
Do not exchange images with other donors or recipients
All images exchanged between you and the recipients should be truthful and you should have permission to use.
Do send recipients a recent picture of yourselves ie taken within the last 12 months.
Do not ask donors for pictures of their offspring (kids have a right to privacy too)
Make sure that your description of yourself is accurate

FIRST MEETING
Always meet somewhere you and the donor will feel comfortable and safe
Be on time for meetings, if you can’t make it or you are running late keep them informed.
Do not attempt to coerce the donor to change donation method at any point.
Do not bring anyone to any meeting they do not expect
Make sure you have recent up to date fertility and STI tests (offer to show these at initial meeting).
If you are doing Natural Inseminations get new STI tests after before each new donor and the results confirmed before receive sperm donation.
Do not use more than one donor per cycle
Do respect a donor’s right to change his mind at any time without giving you a reason

DOING THE DEED – ARTIFICIAL INSEMINATION
Softcups- make sure you are well practised in inserting softcup correctly
Syringe -insert slowly aim for cervix and leave in for a few minutes, lie down as long as possible with pillows/cushions under your bum If you spill the donation contact the donor he may be able to come back again and give a 2nd donation
Do not drink ANY alcohol for rest of your cycle – keep coffee to a minimum
Do try and be outdoors more often for rest of cycle (good for Vitamin D)

AFTER DONATION
Respect donors privacy.
Do not pay expenses until AFTER you have recieved the donation.
Do not contact donors any more than they expect or agreed to.
DO NOT SPERM JACK! (recipient who do disappearing act after getting confirmation of pregnancy)
Do keep in touch with other recipients for up to date info.
Do not troll other recipients or donors.
Do continue taking folic acid and maintaining a good lifestyle
When you find a good donor that you like and trust and is also proven stick with him

AND FINALLY

DO REALISE BEING A GOOD RECIPIENT TAKES EFFORT, DISCRETION, UNDERSTANDING AND PATIENCE
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